Narcissists are a False Self

Narcissists are a False Self, which means a constructed image of who he or she would like to be. Somebody superior, or valid, untouchable, a cut above, deserving of specialized treatment. And of course, with impunity to any criticism whatsoever. The narcissist as a False Self is above reproach.

So, what happens is they suffer a terrible narcissistic injury if their perfect superior mirage of themselves is challenged because underneath this front is a shocking low self-esteem and a very fragile ego. The narcissist’s inner core is deeply damaged and they can’t stand anybody challenging their narrative about their constructed version of themselves and about life.

What this means is when there’s any threat to this version that they’re creating and trying to uphold, the narcissist will need to project, twist, and turn facts and blame you for pretty much everything. Anything that they are upset about is going to be somebody else’s fault. And of course, it’s often going to be your fault.